Today blog is to answer some thing from Mr. Ban’s blog. (Ban, too long for me to reply in your comments)
1. Commitment shouldn't happen when one doesn't understand what commitment is and what life is. Otherwise you're bound for disaster. (The young usually understand neither) My answer: I’m totally agreed with this point. Commitment needs to be understood by both parties and really think carefully for the future. (if you really think for the long term relationship) Every time we heard that some couples broke with the reason ‘they knew each other’ (understand each other), when understood each other will it come out with a lot of problems? Then the disaster will come. Communication before you start any relationship is really important, just like before Lion King and me, we did talk for the whole month then only we came into it. Why? Because I got a bad experience from my last relationship. That really a good example for this topic cause I start that relationship after 3 days I knew this person than our relationship just happened like what inside the drama. Everything too perfect. In those 3 months we did a lot of things. Easy come easy go, this real.
2. Love isn't that when you wake up in the morning and you look at your partner and decide that you don't love him anymore because the feelings of romance are gone. Romance only lasts about 5 years. After the courtship period is over, there's not much more point to it.
My answer: Romance, this is what Lion King gave me in the first day we met. But that doesn’t totally get my heart. Ya romance only a short feeling and we cannot said that we love someone cause this guy know how to create a lot of romantic time. Romance just like the sugar or creamer in the coffee but it can’t replace the coffee. Coffee = Love in the relationship. Love from where? From the bottom of your heart.
3. Love that works best is based on faith in god. Next up is based on family and the children.
Most people are based on "Are you good for me?"
My answer: Ya, from the religion base we did say that our love based on God, cause everything is from God. I thank God for giving me all this relationship cause I did learn a lot from each of the relationship. Before you get your true love sure you will face with some bad relationship. That is to practice and ready you for your true love. (at least this is what I think) Next is based on family and children??? Family yes but not really need to be have children cause I did know one someone they can’t have children but their relationship last for almost 40 years (both of them my teacher for high school), their love based on God and each other.
4. LDRs? Some people are together all the time and stray the moment there's opportunity. Some people are often apart, but stay faithful to the end. (Trust, loyalty and character are an issue)
My answer: Ya, I did share about this LDR in my blog before this. No trust, then this relationship meaningless. Faithful, can everyone do this? But for me long term of LDR is not a good idea cause human need physical intimacy. Discuss more for this in the next point.
5. LDRs don't work because they're based on physical intimacy.
My answer: Yes, I agree with this. Short term of apart is ok, Chinese said Short term of apart make the relationship more intimacy than you just married. *Caution: not long term. Human will change his mind when long term he can’t get the physical intimacy. This change will bring the disaster for the relationship. Then end up with the reason: no more feeling, knew less from this man, don’t know what you doing at the other side, this . that… bla bla bla…
Any idea after you read this? Share it out please.
Relationship is a hard work; we need to learn it from time to time. Coming up I’ll share some [[Rules in this GAME]] in my coming few posts. Let us discuss and learn more from it, maybe this will help in your relationship too. Let us grow our relationship, let the relationship be healthy and strengthen. Good luck for you all in this GAME.
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4 comments:
no i dont agree...
my currently relationship (into 4th year soon) started off as LDR and for the first 3 and a half years, we were apart most of the time..
it was only very very recently that we actually got to see each other apart from work time.. time for friends are allocated and the remainder are two-ppl-world..
yes, trust, honesty and loyalty is very important.. you asked, how can one be faithful? yes, its easy, just learn to say NO!. when friends or even stranger over limit, say NO, then nothing will happen.. If you allow it to happen, then you are not honest, not loyal and not faithful..
now our LDR has become non-LDR already.. we're both stayin together in KL and its for good.. should either one of us have to move because of job again, then both of us will move together..
my other question is.. how many relaionships can last a few years?
Yes, a good question... How many relationship can last for few years, or we can say that how many few years do we have in a relationship.
really a good news that you wait till the LDR to become non-LDR... this a great job. few years, not easy.
ya say NO... everybody pls learn this. especially for the LDR.
thanks Pluboy, good comments. great sharing. i learned something from you.
pls give me more comments for the coming few posts.
I'd comment, but I wrote the first post. So I'm just waiting for more responses. :P
I always believe that a relationship will work if there's trust, commitment (which means that both parties understand why they are in this relationship and how exclusive they are together), honesty and understanding.
Together all four are the makings of a great start to a relationship. Keep it that way and don't waver - and you've got it made.
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